Dear Grandchildren,
Wait. Where are my reading glasses. *cough* *cough*. Yes.
Here they are. *cough* *cough*. Ah. Look at my new Mac book Pro. Shipped in
straight from America .
This is my first blogpost using this new-machine. Dear me. It's nothing like how
it was when I started this blog. Back then, I used to blog from my typewriter.
The times they are a-*cough**cough*... uh..a-changin'...
And now that I turn 26 in a few days, I have seen
enough of life my dear children. I transcend into the other side of the crisis.
Popularly known as the wrong side. I am more of experience, less of learning.
Hmm. But actually not. I still have to learn how to backspace in a Mac. Looks
like, this entire life we learn, unlearn & relearn. The times they are a...
indeed...a- *cough*...chang..*cough*... Arrrrghh Bronchitis.. someday thou shalt also
suffer!
And as I grew up, I heard many people dispense their ground
rules of life. Great men spoke great words. Big men spoke big words. Mom said
somethings too.
But my dear young generation, for you, here are MY very own Top 10 Commandments on
Life!
1) Know What's Worth fighting For. And then fight for it. It
may look impossible, and chances may seem bleak. But if it is worth the plunge,
effing jump.
2) Choose Those People Wisely Who Can Leave a Vacuum in your
Heart when they Leave. And then, don't let'em go. *Keyword: Wisely*
3) You Can't Ask God for Someone to be in your life, or Some
Job in a particular MNC, or Some Outfit from that expensive brand store. Sorry,
He ain’t your secretary. What you can ask for is abundance of love, an extravagant
life, smiles & happiness, domestic peace, even fame maybe. Figure out
"why" you really want what you want. And spare God the details.
4) Focus on your Domestic Life, and your professional life
will stable around. Professional ambition is an endless saga, everyday you can
work forever. But when you know you have to get back home to tuck your kids in
bed, or you have to wake up at 6 to make your mom-in-law coffee, you'll find
more direction & discipline. Set your priorities. What is your big picture?
What is your small sacrifice? Do you know that yet?
5) Watch your Words. Don't underestimate the power of your
brain. It is almost as sharp as your tongue. If you just think a little before
you speak, you can make that pretty girl smile, get your boss to hike your
salary, get someone else to do your laundry, and convince mom to that runaway Las Vegas trip.
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| Abhilasha Dafria's Theory of Mediocrity |
6) Reject Mediocrity. It's that tempting parking spot in
your life's journey to its destination. It's like this: You start small, move
ahead, face struggles, drag on, the road is long, stoned, hurdled, tough.
And then you see this easy de-route. It looks alright, it
looks like a wise shortcut, And you tempt yourself into it. Now you've reached
mediocrity. You'll be welcomed by many like you there. Most of 'em will tell
you this is the best anyone could get. And that's how you'll get engulfed into
this delusion. If you are lucky, realization will hit. You’ll want to break
through. Then you will have to go through ‘the shit curve’ that’ll make it so
difficult for you to drag on. You'll be on your own and have to go back to the
starting point. There ain’t no shortcuts. That is life.
7) It's All Temporary. Your joys, your sorrows, your
success, You. So brag only so much, that it doesn't come back to haunt you. And
if you're going through a rough patch, know the golden words, that This too Shall Pass. No matter how dark it seems right now, there is always a soothing
light at the end of the tunnel. Unless, you're Princess Diana.
8) Don't Break a Heart. Honesty, Commitment, Loyalty, is the
essence of your character. It is the reflection of your upbringing. The core of
your value system. It is NOT an option. It is all that you are. So honour that
promise you made. Because when you break a heart, you’re out-rightly ripping
off someone’s trust, mental strength, emotional investment and everything
fundamental. You're breaking a multiple folds of faith that keeps humans going.
Hope binds us. Don't become the disruption point in that chain. Don't destroy
somebody's reason to live.
9) Meditate, Isolate, Retrospect to Humble Down. Who are
you? Nothing more than a small insignificant speck on the face of this earth.
When you're gone, how many people will be really affected? What is that ratio
compared to the total population of this world? Country? City? Heck, even the
number of people you have interacted with till date? So what are you proud of,
when all you've done is affected only a minuscule irrelevant percentage of your
small little cocoon? Is that your “greatness”?
You can be proud of yourself if you have made peace with the
fact that you are a bloody no one.
Success builds Confidence. With Confidence comes either
Humility or Pride. Humility builds Character. Character builds Success….while
Pride comes just before the Fall. So when you taste initial success, make that
life-defining choice.
10) Finally, Make Your Own Rules. It's your life, no one can live it
for ya. It is your journey, no one can walk it for ya. So make your decisions,
take your calls. Stand up for what you believe in, man... If you won't, who
will?
You know, when you were born, someone up there collected some sand in an hourglass and turned it round. Even as you read this, there is a regulated trickle of sand from the top to the bottom, at the pace of every breath you take. And once the top bulb is empty, you're going to be called back. No excuses.You just have that much time here. We have all come to die. That's our inevitable destination.
And then, how do you think would it really feel... when you die with the knowledge... that you never... really lived?
You know, when you were born, someone up there collected some sand in an hourglass and turned it round. Even as you read this, there is a regulated trickle of sand from the top to the bottom, at the pace of every breath you take. And once the top bulb is empty, you're going to be called back. No excuses.You just have that much time here. We have all come to die. That's our inevitable destination.
And then, how do you think would it really feel... when you die with the knowledge... that you never... really lived?
I leave you *cough* *cough* with that thought.
Love and blessings,
Your soon-to-turn older Granny,
Abhilasha Dafria
PS: Okay huge shout-out to all those people who have messaged me on FB/ mailed me etc and appreciated my blog or questioned why I have stopped writing. Like my best friend Akanksha rightly put it, once you start getting paid for writing, you can’t really blog. So yeah! The journo in me got too busy rambling. But thank you people for all the lovely messages & encouragement. I really feel humbled to know that any part of my blog has inspired you or made you smile. Special mention to you, Ms. Ankita, was very humbled to read your message on my friend’s phone. I don’t know how my blog changed your life, but I’m so happy it did. I have not earned having fans yet, but calling yourself one was a very flattering to me. So, if anything, thank YOU J
